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Our Story

Scripture promises that God will transform us, such that our joy, peace, and our soul’s delight would increase, and our relational

pain, anger, wounds, and retaliatory behaviors would decrease. But, for many of us, we still respond to people and circumstances in

ways we wish we wouldn’t rather than in love like Jesus. 


Over 30 years ago, as a young lead pastor, our founder Mark Gordon Fee, felt disillusioned and discouraged by the lack of change he saw in himself and in his congregation. Especially upsetting was the lack of love he experienced and expressed himself. One day in his distress, God spoke 1 John 4:19 personally: “Mark, You love because I first love* you.” 

So, Mark began coming every day to be loved by God through the scriptures. Later, the Spirit showed him a way to experience God’s love through loving interactions with others. Ultimately, Jesus rooted these new activities of Being Loved First in his new command:  “Love one another just AS I have loved you.” (John 13:34) This began a journey of deep personal transformation in Mark where over time people started asking, ‘what’s happened to you? You’re so different. What are you doing that’s produced this change?’ 


First Loved Ministries was established in 2006 to go out and share with the whole Church these teachings and activities that deepened and changed one man’s interactions with God and others, which changed his marriage, his family, and his church, and have in the years since then changed the lives of countless others!


To help you deepen your daily experience of God loving you by offering intimacy-building activities and removing barriers to loving and being loved.

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Every Christian loving the Jesus way

"The Jesus Way"

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my [new command], you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” (John 15:9-11) 


Jesus loved people the way he had been loved by God the Father, which was uniquely with words and actions. Jesus, having been loved so well, loved his people this way. Over the course of three years the disciples of Jesus were personally loved, witnessed Jesus loving others, or joined with Jesus in loving others - for a totally of nearly 11,000 hours of loving and being loved! It was after all of these experiences with them that Jesus told his friends that this was the only way to remain in God’s love and it has the added bonus of producing full and complete joy. 

This is what we mean by “loving the Jesus way” - it always begins by being loved by God first, up close and personally, through words and actions. Experiencing this life-transformng love compels us to love one another as we have been loved.

Chloe, CT

“I really felt the love here [on the weekend]. I feel/believe this is just what I needed to realize what my soul is thirsting for – the love of Jesus. I definitely needed this and would love to do more [weekends] like this for spiritual enlightenment connecting with Jesus.”

Janet, MA

“Nothing has impacted my life and walk with God more than First Loved Ministries. It has changed how I understand God’s love for me in a dramatic way and has deepened my walk and relationship with God. I feel more secure in His love for me, and am now more free to love others better in the same way I experience God loving me. My love and gratitude to the Lord has greatly increased as well. Overall, it is this weekend that has most affected and grown my 43-year walk with the Lord. And that’s amazing!"

Callie, NH

“The First Loved weekend I participated in changed my walk with Jesus. In personalizing scripture I came to experience and hear His voice of love for me. It was transforming. As I experienced His amazing love I couldn’t help but give it away.”